tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8233207434448612511.post7107243967648519609..comments2023-12-20T08:32:41.349-05:00Comments on QueerCincinnati.com: The Curse of Casual SexBarry Floorehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10955883796568321038noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8233207434448612511.post-66264710866245095922009-07-14T07:51:57.641-04:002009-07-14T07:51:57.641-04:00If you develop a reputation for "casual sex,&...If you develop a reputation for "casual sex," guys interested in something more will put their guards up. Interest on your part will be interpreted as interest in sex only. It will be assumed that, even were something of a relationship to ensue, you would quickly and easily move on when a bit of difficulty enters the picture. <br /><br />I am all for people making their own choices, so this is not judgment -- just things to think about when deciding what is truly important to YOU, and what YOU really want out of life. Kind of like sitting down to savor a sweet treat from that special bakery, vs. junk sweets from vending machines or wherever, and on the run...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8233207434448612511.post-89479058578243061482009-07-13T12:00:17.645-04:002009-07-13T12:00:17.645-04:00it does make sense, but personal experience pushes...it does make sense, but personal experience pushes me to disagree to the extent of emotional "deadening" that casual sex causes. <br /><br />whatever tryst or liaison i may get into outside the confines of a monogamous relationship, i'm still nervous with the ladies who've not been relegated to "casual" status, either by themselves or by me. i'm nervous when i first meet them, when we go on our first date, the first time we kiss. there's an emotional underpinning to those nerves - in my case, there's often far too much of one. in the end, i want to love and be loved, and i fear that something i do along the way will impede the progression of emotion to that level. those worries aren't really there with more recreational hookups, but that doesn't mean there's no emotional component to them.<br /><br />it's not become easier for me to separate emotion from more casual encounters. i think the emotional energy is still there, it's just directed through different channels. quelling self-consciousness, temporary happiness, etc., take precedence over concern for the other's emotional well-being and desire for lasting romantic synergy.<br /><br />maybe that's just me though.Jeff Elrodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11648862772936985891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8233207434448612511.post-5668826812872226742009-07-13T11:28:46.306-04:002009-07-13T11:28:46.306-04:00All I can say is, it makes sense, and it makes ya ...All I can say is, it makes sense, and it makes ya think twice in a way...The Seekerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18391716723383905862noreply@blogger.com